Archive for April 2010

The Month that Was: April

The Month That Was is a regular feature on Through the Looking Glass. On the last day of each month, it will take a look back at the month that was and the highlights (and lowlights) from it.

The Interview: Jon Wells

The Interview is a new regular feature on Through The Looking Glass, which will spotlight someone in the news. Have an idea for an subject for this feature, send me an e-mail. Today’s spotlight is on journalist Jon Wells, whose book Post-Mortem has been nominated for an Arthur Ellis crime writing award in the nonfiction category.


While working at a weekly paper in Guelph, Ont., Jon Wells would scribble his notes at city council meetings. When the meetings got dry, he would still be scribbling away — but not about proposed zoning changes or license approvals. Instead, Wells was making a list.

Toronto Star.

Hamilton Spectator.

Maclean’s.

A self-proclaimed serial resume submitter at the time, Wells was making a list of where he would leave Guelph for at that moment. National papers he submitted to told him he needed daily newspaper experience. Working at a weekly with a masters of journalism was getting him nowhere.

“I really felt that it could be a long time before I got a shot. I felt if I could just get a shot, I felt I was capable of writing with anyone … but I wasn’t sure if I would get a shot,” Wells says over coffee.

He got his shot — and now may soon be able to call himself an award-winning author, instead of just an award-winning reporter. Post-Mortem, which first ran in the Hamilton Spectator as a serialized narrative before Wells turned it into a book, has been short listed in the nonfiction category for an Arthur Ellis award for crimewriting.

“It’s really cool,” he says of getting nominated for the first time as an author, instead of a reporter.

Wells is also up for a Ontario Newspaper Award this weekend, for a feature he wrote on Ian Campbell, who was killed by a drunk driver in 2006.

But it is his long, narrative series that Jon Wells has become synonymous with. It started with Poison, which told the true crime story of Sukhwinder Dhillion which ran in the Hamilton Spectator in 2003. The idea began nearly two years before the first part of the series ran in print when Wells’ then-editor-in-chief, Dana Robbins suggested he do something “big” on the Dhillion case.

“It was sort of as wide open as that, we need to do something big on the Dhillon case,” Wells remembers, saying he was told to take all the time he needed, was allowed to write as long as he wanted and if need be, he could go to India to get the story.

Wells started working on the story near the end of 2001. The process continued for all of 2002 (with a trip to India that summer), and the beginning of 2003 (when Dhillion’s second trial took place). It ran that February.

“It was a long process, that’s for sure. I don’t get that much time any more to do these kinds of things,” Wells smiles. “Those where the days.”

Poison was not just Wells’ first narrative series, it was his first newspaper series. Period. He had always moved toward feature writing though. He remembers when he was hired at the Spec in 1997, former editor-in-chief Kirk La Pointe had a special feature called the Initiative Rotation where reporters would research and write a story for month, then the stories would run as full-page features the following month.

It was Wells’ goal when he was hired to get on that rotation. He did. And he liked it a lot. But the Initiative Rotation was nothing compared to Poison.

“I remember when Poison ended – I thought It would be a one shot thing. This was my chance to do something big and that would be it … I thought this was my one shot, I better make it good so I pulled out all the stops.”

He remembers that Poison in and of itself was a gamble. Devoting that much space to one series was a risk. But the risk paid off. Circulation numbers rose, the response to the series was good.

“I think people want to have a relationship with their newspaper and one story if it’s told well enough and if there’s enough there. I’m surprised other papers haven;’t tried it in a sense,” he says, pointing that serialized stories have a history in newspapers that goes back to Charles Dickens.

After Poison, Wells admits there was a letdown. His first assignment after the serialized narrative? A weather story.

“I remember just thinking, ‘Ah jeez.’ I sucked up the weather story and that was fine. but I remember going to Dana and Roger (Gillespie) and saying, ‘I want to do another one of these. I feel like I have this hunger to do it again with something else.’ ”

Next was Sniper — the story of James Kopp. Then Wells went off the true crime beat (he still does not consider himself a crime writer) to write Heat — about the Plastimet fire in Hamilton in 1997. Then came a series on an emergency room in the city, then came To the Grave (turned into a book called Vanished) and Post-Mortem. This year another Jon Wells series was published, Witness.

While the series are long, Wells’ writing style makes it easy for the reader to want to get involved in these stories. He tries to write his series like a book he says, so there is a lot of colour and description — something he has always had in his writing, even when he was at weekly papers in “one-stoplight towns.”

“I have fun with my writing if I’m describing … I think it comes from trying to make something out of nothing,” he explains.

While he spends a lot of time polishing his writing, he says usually once he has the opening (“the way into”) a story, the rest “is gravy.” That moment came upon him for Witness early on as he was reading the police transcripts and came across the conversation the detectives had with a three-year-old little boy — the son of one of the murder victims.

Wells still would like to try to write a book — fiction likely (because, he theorizes, if he were to write another nonfiction story, why not do it for the Spec?). Maybe a thriller or a mystery.

While he may not be a serial resume submitter anymore, Wells admits he has wondered about other opportunities in other places. The New York Times, maybe. Maybe as a foreign correspondent. Maybe. But the national newspapers in Toronto do not hold the same lustre they once did when Wells was stuck at a weekly he thought he might never leave.

“I think the short answer is at the Spec I keep getting creative things that I like to do.  Its not about being at a quote-unquote ‘daily.’ I don’t think any of us get in this industry for the money … we’re in it because it’s a passion for what we do.

“While I still wonder about other places out there that give me a rush, you know, the ‘I-can’t-believe-I’m-here,’ a Toronto paper wouldn’t do that for me,” he says.

“For me it’s about the work, and the Spec has given me that, a great chance to create.”

The Arthur Ellis awards will be handed on on May 27.

What’s in a name?

According to a new study, women who take the names of their husbands when they marry see a decline in their careers and are seen as less competent and worthy of a lower salary, compared to women who keep their last names after marriage.

The study, conducted by social psychologists at Tilburg University in the Netherlands, also found that women who took their husband’s name possessed different characteristics than women who kept their name, according to the Globe and Mail:

On average, those who had changed their name were older, had lower educational levels, had more children and held more conservative family values. And although they tended to display a stronger work ethic, they also worked fewer hours per week and earned a lower salary than those who did not change their names.

Changing my name when it comes to marriage has been on my mind since I started my career as a published writer — when I was just 17.

That was before the whole “digital footprint” thing — it wasn’t about my Google hits or Facebook page or Twitter stream, it was about my clips — my newspaper clips.

I was — and still am — making a name for myself as Sarah Millar. And while there’s no doubt I could easily change my name and the clippings would transfer over eventually (as would my digital footprint), I can’t say I really want to do that.

Sarah Millar is more than who I am, it is also my history — both professionally and as a writer. The two are not the same. I may write in my profession, but being a writer is in my soul. To me, changing my last name would almost be like saying all the stuff that came before the change — all the stuff as Sarah Millar — didn’t matter anymore. Like I wanted to paint over it.

And I don’t.

I have friends who have also faced this problem. Some of them because they are getting married, others because they are getting divorced. It’s interesting to see this study and how now because of the Internet, it is a question that more and more women grapple with (even those who are not published).

It can be a tough issue to wrap your head around. On the one hand, Sarah Millar is who I am and who I have been for nearly the last 30 years. On the other hand, does not changing my name mean I love my husband less? Or that I am not a full partner in a marriage?

Perhaps there is a middle ground. Keep my name professionally, and change it personally. But that still means saying good-bye to a part of Sarah Millar, even if it is just my driver’s license.

Thankfully, I’m not close to having to make that decision in my immediate future.

In defence of Dalton McGuinty’s sex ed plan

Last week, the Ontario government was taken to task for proposed changes to the sex education curriculum Ontario students would receive in school — in all publicly funded schools.

Some of proposed changes in a nutshell:

— Kids would learn about masturbation in Grade 6 (age 11)
— Oral and anal sex would be discussed in Grade 7 (age 12), especially to discuss the risk of sexually transmitted diseases from both
— Homosexuality and gender identity would be discussed in Grade 3 (age 8 )
— The parts of reproductive system of both sexes would be discussed in Grade 5 (age 10), and puberty changes would also be explained here.

Religious and conservative groups were so outraged by the proposed modifications, Liberal Premier Dalton McGuinty quickly changed his tune less than three days after defending the changes and rescinded the plan. McGuinty did not say it was one group or thing that caused him to backpedal, telling the Toronto Star:

“I’m not sure there’s one thing in particular. I think it came out of nowhere. Tthe net that was cast in terms of consulting was too narrow. We’ve got to take some responsibility in government for that. If we’re going to put forward that kind of a proposal we need to make sure that people are aware that it’s coming … I don’t think much of that happened, frankly, in this case.”

A quick admission, I am not a parent. That being said, I do believe this curriculum has a place in our public schools. Parents were concerned that some sexual issues were being taught to kids too young under the new guidelines. Others argued it is the job of the parents to teach their kids about sex — whenever and however they want.

And sure, that’s a valid argument. Parents should be talking to their kids about this stuff. But oftentimes they’re not — or at least not soon enough.

My mother sat me down at 10. She glossed over a lot, but I knew at that point what intercourse was (I didn’t understand it, but I knew what it was). At 11, I got sex ed in school — which for my Catholic school really just consisted of separating the boys and the girls, they talked about boy parts while we talked about periods and labelled diagrams of our reproductive organs. Oh, yeah, and we were told not to do it until we got married.

I’m not even 30 yet, but things have changed since I was a kid. Not only are teens today starting sexual activity (especially oral sex) at a younger age, but they have somewhere to “learn” about it that didn’t exist when we were young — the Internet.

It’s bad enough to have kids learn about sex from their friends, which tend to put expectations and pressure on kids that wouldn’t exist if they had sexual knowledge from a parent or teacher beforehand, but the Internet makes sex so accessible, that it’s no wonder 12-year-olds nowadays dress more like porn stars than kids — it’s what they see on TV and online. I mean, your first time having sex is hard enough — imagine being 15 and thinking you have to live up to what you’ve seen in online porn videos.

This sex ed curriculum would teach kids about their bodies and how normal it is to be a sexual being, but how important it is to never lose yourself because of it.

And what really irked me about this sex ed plan was all the homophobia surrounding teaching kids about sexuality, gender identity and same sex marriage at the age of eight.

How many kids have two mommies or two daddies nowadays? I would wager more than when I was a kid. And as far as these children are concerned, there is nothing wrong with their parents — it’s other kids that come from a “normal” family who don’t understand.

As for a gender identity? Many people I know who are gay, or transgendered, or bisexual, or whatever — knew at a very young age. Teaching eight-year-olds about all this stuff would not make them change what they are or question what they are, but no doubt it would make kids who are already questioning what they are feel more normal, instead of wondering what is wrong with them.

By teaching kids about other lifestyles and tolerance young, we might be able to weed out the hate that breeds from ignorance. That could be a beautiful thing.

I can only imagine how hard it must be as a parent to sit down and talk about sex with your kids — especially some of the stuff that can be uncomfortable to talk about, but it must be done. At least with this sex ed curriculum, kids would have learned about it from someone they could trust for answers — instead of listening to their friends and doing it because everyone else is.

Hopefully, this sex ed plan will be revisited. Perhaps one modification is parents who really don’t want their kids part of it can remove them from the classroom (which would really just alienate them more, but I digress).

By removing this sex ed plan, I feel like we’re teaching our kids to be ashamed by our bodies and not empowered by them. And that’s truly something to be ashamed of.

Charges finally laid in Brampton, Ont. teen’s death

From the first moment I heard about Nadia Kajouji, I felt a connection with the then-18-year-old Brampton, Ont., native.

It was 2008 and Kajouji had disappeared from her Carleton University dorm room one snowy February night. As the weeks passed, details about Kajouji’s mental state and her suicidal online postings surfaced. A month later, her body was found on the banks of the canal — it appeared she had tried to drown herself.

I connected with Kajouji because I too went to Carleton University and suffered major depression while there. I too had suicidal thoughts. The difference between the two of us was I got out alive (I wrote about my experiences in the Ottawa Citizen before Kajouji’s body was found).

After her death, conversations Kajouji had online became public. Apparently she thought she was chatting with a female in the United States who was also suicidal. Instead, this was a grown man. And instead of being suicidal himself, he wanted Kajouji to kill herself online — while he watched. (Oh and just to add to the horror, the man is a nurse!)

Her family has wanted some sort of retribution for what this man did. But the law, like many things, has not caught up to the internet quite yet in cases like this. And since Kajouji was Canadian, and this man was American, it was hard for authorities to figure out in what jurisdiction he would be charged, or with what he could be charged with.

Then news came Friday authorities did figure it out, and he will be charged.

William Melchert-Dinkel has been charged with two counts of aiding suicide, one for Kajouji and one for a man in Britain who also killed himself at Melchert-Dinkel’s urging. According to the Star article, the case is “believed to be the first time in North America that assistant suicide laws have been applied for such cases — and it could lead the way for charges in similar cases in the future.

If convicted, Melchert-Dinkel could face up to 30 years in prison and $60,000 in fines.

I am thrilled that this man is finally seeing legal action for what he did to Kajouji. As someone who has been in that mental state, I cannot imagine someone taking advantage of me and my mind like that. How inhumane do you have to be to prey for someone when they are at their lowest low?

However, I don’t believe this is the only kind of case where the law needs to be applied.

Online bullying for teens has increased tenfold from when I was in high school. There are cases in the United States where the bullying got so bad, kids have killed themselves over it. Studies have shown that verbal bullying is oftentimes worse than physical bullying — emotional scars don’t heal as well.

By Minnesota prosecutors filing charges against Melchert-Dinkel, this could easily pave the way for other jurisdictions to be able to file charges for online bullying or harassment. The internet should not be a hate free for all — the law should apply online just as it does off.

As for Kajouji’s family? The Star reached her father who said he didn’t think charges would have been laid, but he was realistic about what the charges mean to him:

“It won’t bring Nadia back, but it is a relief. I miss her so much, and not a day goes by when I don’t think about it.”

Hopefully, what happened to Nadia Kajouji will never happen to another person online again.